#4. Friday is for | Misophonia

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I want to talk about a condition which I have and isn’t known much about; Misophonia.

I have a problem. I hate certain sounds. People tapping their feet or drumming their fingers. People who chew loudly or with their mouths open. People who smack their lips together. People who say “shhhhhh”. Audible music from headphones, inaudible mumbling from quiet conversations. Even the motion of the foot tapping below is causing my heart to beat faster and my annoyance to grow.

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The thing is, it’s not just a case of finding the noise mildly annoying. I don’t just “hate it”. I find it unbearable, I feel uncomfortable and I start to feel rage towards the person making the noise. My fight or flight response kicks in and unfortunately in my case, my fight mode is to start shaking and crying with anger.

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I remember feeling this way about noises since I was at least 14 years old and with time, it’s got worse. I dread getting the bus in case there’s an “offender”. I don’t listen to music on the bus as I’m paranoid people can hear my music and I’m just as bad as the “offenders” are.

I’m not too bad with people I know now, as I’m confident enough to ask them to shut up, but I don’t imagine strangers would take too kindly to me doing the same to them!

It’s become so bad that my GP has now put me on the waiting list for CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to try and help retrain my brain to not be bothered by noises and to find coping strategies.

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What coping strategies do you have for combating annoyances in your lives? x

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11 Comments

  1. Interesting – have not heard there’s a term for this! I feel as though I’m more sensitive to sounds compared to my SO – he has the volume of the TV up SO LOUD and it drives me insane. He says the volume is normal. In fact, it’s one of the few things we argue over – seems petty but it’s awful to me. I actually wear noise cancelling headphones to muffle the noise – and I keep the headphones on without anything playing – they just act as ear muffs.
    Anyway, I hope CBT works for you! 🙂 Thanks for sharing this.

  2. I have misophonia as well. The pain these “trigger” noises have caused me in my life is overwhelming. Thank you for making that distinction – that this is not a simple avoidance but something that results in very real neurological reactions. I tried CBT, but the best for me was sound therapy with an audiologist. Fill your world with sound to help your brain distract from the trigger sounds, and look into noise generators for your ears, they help me. My husband and I blog about our life with misophonia and other issues at Ourmisolife.wordpress.com

  3. I suffer too…my dads jaw clicks when he eats and my boyfriend clears his throat quietly but repeatedly A LOT ….i always feel bad after for flipping out and getting angry with them…but it just makes me want to punch walls!

    1. I’m so glad it’s not just me. My dad taps his foot. All the time. It’s fine nor I don’t live with him, but I used to have to stop watching TV downstairs as I couldn’t stand the noise! X

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